I’ve put off writing this post, and the series of posts that will follow it, for about 4 or 5 months now.
It’s not that I don’t believe what I’m about to write.
It’s not that I know it will be a lot of work to get all the topics covered.
And it’s not that I don’t really want to get this out there.
It’s that I think that too many people are going to take it the wrong way.
This post and the ones following are about what I look for in a woman.
What this series is NOT about:
It’s not about all women. Many, probably even most, women are not what I am looking for. It doesn’t mean that most women are bad, or wrong, or inferior. Just different.
It’s not about how women SHOULD look. Yes, I’m going to talk about physical attributes. Yes, I generally have a specific type. No, that does not mean I want need or expect all women to look that way.
Most things that can be compared between two people (two women) I have a preference. Or at least an opinion. Generally I’m open to different things and not too tied to specifics. There are three things though that I’ve come to realize that I require in a woman that I’m considering for a mate or a serious relationship.
She must be attractive.
A lot of people are going to read that, put their own prejudices and ideas on it, and think I mean a woman needs to look a specific way. They’re going to call me shallow, a male chauvinist and a misogynist. Fine, if that’s the only way you can see that statement then it’s done it’s job. I wouldn’t want to be with someone who thought those things. But really think about how you choose a mate. Would you really want to choose someone who was unattractive? That’s what I’m saying. I need to be attracted to her. However she looks if the question “Is she attractive?” can be answered with a “yes”, what more do I need? And I’m certainly not saying that other people need to think she’s attractive.
She must think of herself as attractive.
Because if she doesn’t think she looks good, why should I? I’ve been around too many women who put themselves down, who are never satisfied, who can’t even accept a compliment. And that’s just draining. Yes, you could certainly take this one too far. I don’t want a narcissist, or someone with no desire to better themselves. But in general she should be happy with how she looks.
She must enjoy posing nude for me.
I think this one is going to be the most limiting. But it is very important to me.
From a leisure standpoint, photographing nudes is something I enjoy. And I enjoy it even more when I can share it with someone I’m in a relationship with. This is no different than someone who enjoys motorcycles also wanting their mate to like motorcycles.
From a practical standpoint, someone who knows what happens during a photo shoot should be less likely to feel any jealousy or fear when I photograph others.
Personality wise, women I have photographed nude have been more confident, independent, daring, open, and comfortable with themselves. All of these are qualities that I feel are important. I’m not saying that a woman who doesn’t pose nude can not be those things, but I have not met a person who has posed nude who doesn’t have these attributes.
This requirement will also weed out a large number of women who allow others to make decisions for them. There are many people and organizations in our country and elsewhere on our planet that feel that nudity is wrong and should be limited to a very small set of circumstances. For a woman to decide to pose nude, and possibly go against the wishes and views of her parents, family, friends, religion, public opinion, and even the law; shows a remarkable ability for independent thought and decision making.
So those are my three requirements. In the next post I will talk about what exact physical attributes I prefer.